Integration 3 -- Sooner, Hoosier, German: Julian was All Three Friends, Hoosiers, Countrymen, lend me your ears. Today, we celebrate a man whose accomplishments are only outweighed by the impact he had on those close to him. My name is Osborne, and I am one of Julian’s two children. was a husband, father, judge, but most importantly, a friend. Tragically, Julian died peacefully in his sleep at the ripe old age of 85 exactly three days ago. As his son, I knew Julian’s life very well. He had accomplished much in his life, but he always made sure to hold steadfast to his moral code and personal beliefs. As someone very close to him, I always remember him being very relaxed, even in the most stressful of times. So, one day I asked him, “How are you always so relaxed?”. That is when he taught me this valuable lesson: ““Half the confusion in the world comes from not knowing how little we need.”” (“Why we need to slow down our lives” by Pico Iyer - Moreau FYE Week One). This lesson made me realize that perhaps we just need to take a little breather in our busy lives and reflect on our own experiences rather than try to pick up new ones. Perhaps another quote about reflection that Julian mentioned often was, “We can spend endless amounts of time in self-reflection but emerge with no more self-insight than when we started.” (“The right way to be introspective (yes, there’s a wrong way)” by Tasha Eurich - Moreau FYE Week Six). Julian stressed that although we should engage in self-reflection and relaxation from time to time, we must not get too caught up in it. Oftentimes, in his youth, Julian would think about the future, the past, and the present, however, after realizing that this reflection might actually not lead to any concrete revelations, he started using it as more of a mechanism to check up on himself. This led to the growth of the confident old man we all knew and loved. https://ideas.ted.com/why-we-need-a-secular-sabbath/ https://ideas.ted.com/why-we-need-a-secular-sabbath/ https://ideas.ted.com/the-right-way-to-be-introspective-yes-theres-a-wrong-way/ https://ideas.ted.com/the-right-way-to-be-introspective-yes-theres-a-wrong-way/ Another incredibly important lesson that Julian taught me was that we must treasure every moment we have. As we see today, life is very short. When considering the future, it also helps to relive the past—specifically the experiences that have shaped us. While quoting a literary work, Julian used to explain that “Every experience shapes you in some way, whether you realize it at the time or not!” ("Navigating Your Career Journey” by the Meruelo Family Center for Career Development - Moreau FYE Week Four). I have taken this quote to heart and have always looked back on my experiences and determined how they have shaped me today—and how they might shape my future. Perhaps one of Julian’s greatest abilities was one that he shared in common with a great President of his Alma Mater. Some described Father Hesburgh as follows: “Father Hesburgh had an extraordinary ability to reach across lines” (“Hesburgh” by Jerry Barca and Christine O'Malley - Moreau FYE Week Two). Julian also embodied this quality. After graduating from Notre Dame, Julian worked to forge many strong relationships with everyone around him—whether these were his friends, enemies, or even strangers. Through this strong ability he advanced far in life and made many valuable connections. It is often overlooked how beneficial it can be to just start a conversation and talk to someone. Julian was never afraid to shy from conversation, and throughout his college life, he worked on becoming more and more approachable. This way, not only would he be able to extend his network to those whom he didn’t know, but he would also be able to extend an olive branch to those who might usually shy from conversation. A testament to his kindness was shown through his constant advice that even in the direst of times, we must be there for others. He said that it didn’t matter if we were in a bad situation, if someone was worse off and asking for help, we should do the same as the homies in Fr. Greg https://undergradcareers.nd.edu/navigating-your-career-journey---moreau/ https://canvas.nd.edu/courses/40336/modules/items/149229 Boyle’s book and ask, “‘Can I give him my blood’” ("Chapter 8: Jurisdiction" by Fr. Greg Boyle - Moreau FYE Week Seven). He detailed that we must always try our best to help others. Further in life, he often used this philosophy when making judicial decisions. He worked to grow to the mindset of “How can I give my blood for those in need.” Throughout his life, often pursued his ultimate goal—to make an impact on the world. Julian realized during his youth: “I realized that the true effect I want to have is to change the world for the better” (“Interview Reflection” by - Moreau FYE Week Five). After graduating from Notre Dame University with a degree in Honors Mathematics and Aerospace Engineering, he went on to pursue a degree in international law from Harvard University. With this, he became a judge on the international court in Geneva. He ruled on many important cases and through this career path had a substantial impact on those around him and all the world. As his son, I often asked Julian for career advice. Julian simply always made one reply: ““Does anybody need you to do it?” ("Three Key Questions" by Fr. Michael Himes - Moreau FYE Week Three). His philosophy was as follows: even if you find something that you really love to do, you always need to make sure that someone needs you to do it. Then, you can make a career out of it. If someone needs you to do it, they will likely pay you for it, and then, a successful life will follow, and you will flourish. In addition to all of Julian’s accomplishments and personal beliefs, he was also one of the most caring individuals I have ever known. He would never hesitate to risk anything and everything for his family. I was lucky to grow up in a household so full of love, and that is why it is so tragic that he has passed away so soon. He was very giving with his love. He never asked for favors back, or even expected anything in return. He would always do good for other https://canvas.nd.edu/courses/40336/modules/items/167905 https://docs.google.com/document/d/1DsktJXYHsz5xv5UUiKjuJrY913g9jGBaATtrZWsNcik/edit?usp=sharing https://canvas.nd.edu/courses/40336/modules/items/149291 people—whether this be small acts like helping the neighbors carry the groceries inside or big acts like helping a stranger back on their feet. So, I know that he was just as loved by the community as I—and many of you—love him. Although we may reminisce about Julian’s life philosophies, advice, loving, and career, we are all coming here together today to remember a man who was special to all of us. He helped us all through the toughest of times and was there exactly when we needed him. I am extremely grateful that I have had such a great example to look up to, and I hope that we may all take away some of the lessons he yearned to teach others throughout his life. May he rest in peace.