Moreau Integration – Eulogy
	Ladies and Gentlemen, as we gather today to remember the Hayden’s life, we must remember his greatest beliefs, values, and convictions. The things he strived to live up to most, even if he never fully did. Hayden’s beliefs inspired what he did and said, as “Our words are buttressed by our deeds, and our deeds are inspired by our convictions” (Conaghan quoting Hesburgh – Week Two). Hayden always asked what type of person he wanted to be, not what did he most wanted to do, allowing himself to hold most important his faith and deepest convictions. 
	One of the most important things for Hayden was getting out of his comfort zone. This first occurred to Hayden during his Week Five Moreau assignment in a conversation with his father. When asked about a time when Hayden was in the zone, he quickly responded that he saw it when Hayden delivered a speech at his graduation ceremony. This struck Hayden as odd because it was an event which was very uncomfortable for him, which made him nervous, even though it ultimately turned out very well. It made him realize that many of the times when he was at his best were these times when he had to rise to the occasion. Another similar moment for Hayden was the sectional golf tournament his senior year of high school, when on a frigid morning he would need to shoot the best round of his season for a chance to advance in the state tournament, and sure enough he did. It was these types of uncomfortable moments when Hayden excelled the most.
As many of you know, Hayden was a quiet man. Introverted and often shy, Hayden valued contemplation and reflection on his days. He recognized clearer than many that “The need for an empty space, a pause, is something we have all felt in our bones; it’s the rest in a piece of music that gives it resonance and shape” (Iyer – Week One). Rest gave Hayden to look back, take a breath, but that never meant he was not thinking. Even when sitting down after a long day to watch an episode of the Sopranos, he would write and reflect about themes he saw in the shows. 
Contemplation and reflection also allowed Hayden to continually bring his faults to the front of his life, and instead of suppressing them, working on them intentionally to fix them. Quick to take responsibility for his own wrongs, Hayden learned “Asking what could keep us open to discovering new information about ourselves, even if that information is negative or in conflict with our existing beliefs. Asking why might have the opposite effect” (Eurich – Week Six). By believing this is the way to deal with his issues, he did his best to never have a victim mentality, taking ownership of his own life. 
While deeply focused on becoming a better person himself, Hayden never let that get in the way of his relationship with others, and in fact, looked to better himself through his relationships. Like Pope Francis, Hayden believed, “that each and everyone’s existence is deeply tied to that of others: life is not merely time passing by, life is about interactions” (Pope Francis – Week Seven). Hayden aspire to always influence others positively. A regular blood donor for much of his life, Hayden was inspired by the frequent blood transfusions his younger brother had to receive throughout much of his cancer treatment. This left a last impact on him that we ought to do all we can, no matter how small or large, to help others. 
Though he may argue career ambition and financial success was secondary to Hayden’s desires to live out his faith, he worked hard in all that he did. During much of his college years he would often complain that when he told people he was a math major he would have no way to reply to the inevitable question of “what do you want to do with that?” Nevertheless, when Hayden did find what he wanted to do, he sunk his teeth in and dug deep, achieving all that he could. He would give the advice to all in career discernment that “if you give yourself that time you will gain so much” (Career Development Center – Week Four). It is important to dedicate and allot specific time to think about these important questions because they will put you down a certain unique path for the rest of your life.
Golf was a sport that Hayden took up young, but only got serious about in the beginning of high school. Though dreaming of one day making his way to the Tour, he knew that it was at the end of the day not going to be possible, as he just was not quite good enough and by the time he gained passion for the sport had not near enough time to practice in order to become great. Nevertheless, golf is a passion which stuck with Hayden for his entire life. It brought him joy and frustration, laughs and swears, and most importantly great memories. 
I will finish today with some advice which Hayden would give to all of you now if he were still here to say it, which is that though we may not like to think about it, all of our days are numbered. It is important to remind ourselves of this so that we may be able to properly order our limited time. As Sister Aletheia states, “Remembering death keeps us awake, focused, and ready for whatever might happen — both the excruciatingly difficult and the breathtakingly beautiful” (Graham – Week Three). Without the knowledge that we are only here for a short while, we lose sight of what is truly important, and miss out on it while wasting time doing stupid stuff. Remember to pursue virtue, meaning, and purpose in all of its forms, for what better way to spend a life than on that? If nothing else, do it in memory of Hayden.