Week 8 - Integration One Ryan Moreau Integration Paper 15 October 2021 Why I am? I believe that leaving room to forgive myself is a trait that, though I struggle with this at times, is necessary for being able to succeed. I have noticed that over time I have become more willing to accept myself for who I am and not treat small mistakes or who I am as a major problem as I have for many years. This is making it possible for me to grow as a person when I am able to shed insecurities and make mental room to accomplish more. “Be patient, if you’re in a hurry a knot becomes so much harder to remove” (Rev. Pete. Role of Faith in Our Society, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcZMeqWWOIs&feature=youtu.be&ab_channel=University ofNotreDameCampusMinistry - Moreau FYE Week 3). This quote spoke to me for the fact that it made problems such as anxiety can be put into terms that are easier for me to physically conceptualize. Since seeing this quote, I actually have spent much time thinking about it and trying to incorporate it into my life. I will get to the point where I start to get an anxiety attack over relatively small problems, for example, I was trying to open a bottle and could not, which lead me to nearly crying from the over playing of the stress. “A good friend should never make you feel like the things you’re saying are unimportant and uninteresting” (The Red Flag Campaign. (n.d.) Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships. https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B93cIKOnINCLS1JpUzZ5Q1JseGs/view?resourcekey=0-CnuZ pCgZqMkHDyQAjvac_A - Moreau FYE Week Four). I feel like this quote especially applies to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcZMeqWWOIs&feature=youtu.be&ab_channel=UniversityofNotreDameCampusMinistry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcZMeqWWOIs&feature=youtu.be&ab_channel=UniversityofNotreDameCampusMinistry https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B93cIKOnINCLS1JpUzZ5Q1JseGs/view?resourcekey=0-CnuZpCgZqMkHDyQAjvac_A https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B93cIKOnINCLS1JpUzZ5Q1JseGs/view?resourcekey=0-CnuZpCgZqMkHDyQAjvac_A my need to forgive myself to be able to succeed. This is true because many instances that have caused me the most pain and heartache have been due to relationships. When I was in high school, I noticed that one of my friends would constantly point out every small fault I would make as a way to make fun of me. This shows the importance of relationships as connected to being able to show sympathy to oneself. I believe that I pursue truth by constantly seeking fairness in the way myself and others around me act. This is one of my core beliefs because I can not separate the way I view the world from the way I interact with it. “Race can bias people to see harmless objects as weapons when they are in the hands of Black men and to dislike abstract images that are paired with Black faces” (Payne, K., Niemi, L., Doris, J. (2018 March 27). How to Think about ‘Implicit Bias’. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-think-about-implicit-bias/# - Moreau FYE Week Seven). This is such an important aspect to understanding truth and fairness in the way I do. Race is one of the most impactful aspects to a person's understanding of themself. It is impossible to fairly view a person without taking into account all of an individual's many facets of life. When race becomes involved, I understand that I will never be able to understand the full impact of what it means on people of color’s lives. However, I work to learn through listening as well as try to keep people in check who are white when they are unwilling to listen or sympathize with people of color’s experiences. “Something someone said to you could open into a scene or a poem which captures that moment; could be what you wanted to say back but never did” (“Where I’m From” by George Ella Lyon. http://www.georgeellalyon.com/where.html – Moreau FYE Week Six). This quote spoke to the idea of pursuing truth to me in an odd way because it shows to me it is easy to forget https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-think-about-implicit-bias/# the many parts of life and interactions that have an impact on you. It is difficult to be fair when you are ignoring the many different aspects of a situation when you are trying to reach a certain conclusion that is easy. I believe that my relationships are the best way for me to reach my highest potential. I place great importance on the friendships and family bonds I hold, and I choose to put them above all else. “[Vulnerability] is willingness to do something when there is no guarantee” (Brown, B. [Tedx Talks]. (2010, October 06). The power of vulnerability [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0&list=PLmiPsabET-W_hjesjTZaITh2s1Wb M-Kd0&index=3 - Moreau FYE Week One). I have noticed this come into play during my time at Notre Dame because, as we all are constantly spending time together here, now we have the opportunity to talk through these matters together. I have realized how important it is to fully open up to the people around me in order to make meaningful friendships. There have been many late nights where I have sat up in my room talking under my Christmas lights and talking about our pasts. Sharing these types of stories and feelings comes with a bit of risk, this means that by sharing these facts comes with the risk that these relationships may fall through. I actually drifted from someone who I shared very personal information with, and now I have begun to realize that certain things, even if it feels right in the moment, I need to have better self restraint on sharing. “Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone; therefore we must be saved by love” (Brooks, B [Tedx Talks] (2014, April 14). Should you live for your resume…or your eulogy? [Video]. Youtube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MlLWTeApqIM – Moreau FYE Week Two). This is one of the main reasons I put such a heavy emphasis on my https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0&list=PLmiPsabET-W_hjesjTZaITh2s1WbM-Kd0&index=3 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0&list=PLmiPsabET-W_hjesjTZaITh2s1WbM-Kd0&index=3 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MlLWTeApqIM relationships in life. While growing up, I used to say the quote, ‘teamwork makes the dream work’ on a daily basis. The need to share in work is so important to your ability to get tasks done as well as being able to emotionally process things is easiest when you share the processing of the information with another person as well. “Help anyone anyone, anyhow, anyway, simply because you can” (Grove, K. (n.d.) Two Notre Dames: Your Holy Cross Education [Panopto Video]. https://notredame.hosted.panopto.com/Panopto/Pages/Viewer.aspx?id=859bc1a8-0d0f-4eb4-a1c1 -d0a45c429187 - Moreau FYE Week Five). This is one of the most important aspects of relationships because it leads into the fact that when you are in them you must be willing to give and serve the people you make relationships with. It is also important to take this into every social interaction. All pieces of humanity are interconnected and in order to maintain your presence, one must treat every interaction as a relationship, since they are in fact in relation to each person. This means to do good, one must be willing to treat every facet of society, including the homeless or others you may not understand, with respect. https://notredame.hosted.panopto.com/Panopto/Pages/Viewer.aspx?id=859bc1a8-0d0f-4eb4-a1c1-d0a45c429187 https://notredame.hosted.panopto.com/Panopto/Pages/Viewer.aspx?id=859bc1a8-0d0f-4eb4-a1c1-d0a45c429187