Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 319 THE PARENT ROLE IN EARLY CHILDHOOD CHARACTER BUILDING (Descriptive Study at SPS DAHLIA DESA SUNDAWENANG KECAMATAN PARUNGKUDA KAB. SUKABUMI ) 1Dwi Hayantina Sunarni, 2Tita Rosita1,2 IKIP Siliwangi1dhayantina10@gmail.com ABSTRACTHaving children who has a good character is every parent wish. For having thisgood character its need to be done from early age. All the parents has animportant role on building this character to their children. Children as a goodimitators will do what they see, so that the parent in this case need to be a goodrole model to the children. Like a wise words say an apple never fall far from thetree, so its mean childrens is the reflection of their childrens. If we want to havechildren with good character so the parent must have a good character too. Sothat the parent has a main role to building this early age children. Every child islike a clean white paper, they will follow every direction that been given tothem. Not only the parents, school and the environtment having a huge role tobuilding this children character. But back again if the parents already put thevalues of the good character the children wont absorb other influence fromtheir environment. So it means that father and mother roles in the familybecoming the most important things on this children character building. Otherthan that the parent responsibilities to their children character building need tobe their main concern. Keywords : parents role, character education, earlty childhood PRELIMINARY Basically every parents wish a smart and well behaved child in everyday life, so one daythey will be an excellent child and tough through every challenge in the future. But weneed to realize that an execellent generation like this wont grow by themselves. Theyreally need a good environment that exist in that purpose, that making all childrenspotention grow possibly so its become more healthier, smart, and well behave. In thiscase parents has a main roles. Full of loving atmoshpere, willing to accept childrens nomatter what they are, appreciate children potention, giving stimulations that rich withevery development aspect, whether cognitively, affective, socioemotional, morality,religion, and psikomotoric, all of that is a real answers for a well character generationgrowth in the future. Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 320 The Laws of the National Education System said that education is a sharedresponsibility between family, society and government. School is a second fase from thefirst education in the family, because the first education and the basic is obtained bychild from their family. On this period a right and good learning foundation is important.On their development, a children not only need attentions from their family and schoolbut they need the attention from the society environment. This environment one daywill give a huge influence to a children development. Ki Hajar Dewantara, as a Father ofIndonesian Education said that : “ An education should be done cooperatively beetween family is the key because family is the main foundation on building Intelligence Quotiennt (IQ) and Emotional Quotient (EQ). Haryoko (1997: 2) think that environment has a huge influence as a stimultant onchildren development. Parents have a huge role on building children character. Thereality around the society, that even without we notice every behavior along with theparent good character or not it will be imitates by the childrens. Childrens doesn’t knowwhat have they done is good or not, because preschool age learn from what they seen.The education about attitude, behavior, and a good language will affect the goodchildren character building need to be done since early age. Is a huge concern when seeing the reality at SPS Dahlia the parents seems doesn’t reallycare about their childrens, their values, future goals, and the motivations that will helpthem, even though they knowing that childrens not just only needed which right orwrong, but they need to making a right decisions and have they own responsibility. To building a good character to the children need a good cooperations between parents,and the society. The teacher or the educator have a main roles and major to a childrencharacter building, because in the school environment childrens will be created into ahigh quality humans after the educations that given by family. Departed from thosebackground, the researcher Is mean to further peeling the point of this Parents Role onBuilding Early Age Children Character (Descriptive Study at SPS Dahlia DesaSundawenang). THEORITICAL REVIEW Parent Role In FamilyFamily is the smallest component in the society. Keluarga consist of husband and wife;husband, wife, and children; husband and child; or wife and child. Inside one family,parent has a main role on teach their childrens remembering the parent is a madrosatul uula because inside family human is born to grow and being adults. Form and thecontent of the education ways on the family will always affect the growth and thedevelopment of their behavior and attitude on every humans. The education that gottenfrom the family will used by the children as the base to follows the next education inschool. Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 321 Parent is the family component that consist of father and mother, and is a result from alegal bond of marriagethat can create a family. Parent have a responsibility to teach,nurturing, and lead their childrens to reach the certain stages that will deliver childrensto be ready on society life. While the above description about parent, cannot beseparated from the description of a family, because parent is a part of a big family whichthe most of it have been replaced by the main family that consist of father, ibu, andchildren. If it reviewed according to a Laws No. 10 of 1972, family thatt consist of father,mother and childen of a blood ties or law. Family on its relation with the childrenidentically as a place or nurturing institutions which can give much affection,breatfeeding activities, effective and economical. Inside those family childrens is havingtheir first time direct early experience that will be use as their provision of life in thefuture through physical training, social, mental, emotional, and spiritual. After we knowing the parent description we can understand that parent has a main roleon giving education to the children. What parent give along children early life willimprint and carried until the children entered a next fase of life. So that parent play amain role to decide the childrens life. But the parent role not just only for the motherbut need a good cooperation between father and mother. As for the role and thefunction of the parents to the children education divide into: 1. Mother RoleOn most family, mother is having the main role to their childrens. Since the child wasborn, mother always stays beside them. Mother giving foods and drinks, taking care, andalways hangout with the childrens. That’s why most of children always their mothermore than other family member. A mother education to their child is a basic educationthat cannot be ignored at all. So that, a mother need to be a wise and good at educatingtheir child. To some people says that a mother is a nation educator. Its so real howheavy it is to be a good teacher and good household ruler. Whether its good or bad themother education to their children will affected to their development and their childrenattitude one day. A mother will always worried and always fullfil what their childrenwants, even if its not good enough. As long as every expression contains love andaffection inside mothers heart, the childrens will easily obey like employee to their boss.As the functions itself and the responsibility as a family member, can be concluded thatmother role on children educations is a resource and lovers, caregiver and keeper, placeto pour out your heart, life caretaker inside household, personal life leader, emotionaleducators. 2. Father RoleLots of people thought that father just working for living to support family and motheris leading and educating childrens and doing house chores. However parents shouldworking together to educating children, not just the mother do. Because father is a Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 322 leader, teacher, and family caretaker. The father attitude will affect to the childrenpersonality. Father is a identification person to a chidren, the benchmark or a scale totheir behavior. Children education is puposing to lead children to maturity ways so thechildren will having the balance between feelings and cultural sense and can create thebalance on their future life. Without any mean to discrimate the job and father andmother responsibility In the family, reviewed from its function and the responsibility asa father, can be put forwarded here thatt fathers role in children educations that moredominant as a: control source inside the family, the family connector to society or theworld outside, a security giver to all the family member, the protector from outsiodethreats, judges or the one that will the law if theres any fights, educators from rasionalaspect. From above descriptions we can concluded that no matter its father or even mother willhave the same important role on educating their children especially on the childrencharacter building. So its mean that father and mother role is very important and havinga huge influence to a children life, so it need a cooperation issues between father andmother. Character EducationBefore we disscussing about these character education we need to know first what ischaracter mean. Character is the values of a humans behavior that connected to The OneAlmighty God, themselves, to other humanbeing, environment, and the nation that beencreated inside mind, attitude, feelings, words, and action according to religious issues,law, manners, culture, and customs. Character is a personal attitude that relativelystable to an indivual person that becoming a basic to a attitude appearance inside thestandart values and the high norm. Charcter based on the values and the norm (Prayitno and Belferik Manullang, 2010). Ancharacter education is a system to a children character implant values which cover theeducation component, conciousness or desire, and an action to do those values, whetherto The One Almighty God, themselves, eac other, environment, even the nations so thatbeoming an insan kamil humans. Character leading is included inside the material that need to be taught and controlledand realized by the students on their everyday life. The problem is, along this timecharacter education in school just reach the norm intoductions stage or the values, andhavent done on the internalisation stage and real action around every day life.According to Law No 20 of 2003 About National Education System on Article 13 chapter1 said that education ways is consist of formal education, non formal, and informal thatneed to complete each other and enriched it. Informal education is a family andenvironment education ways. Informal education is having a huge role and contributionin the education success. Along this time, informal education especially inside the family Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 323 environment havent giving a certain contribution to support the result of thecompetention and student character building. Bussiness and relatively high scale ofparent work activities, lack of understanding to educate their children inside familyenvironment, the influence of the association around, and the influece of electronicmedia can be a negative influence to a children character development. We need to be a good parents if we want to have a good character children.Remembering that education inside family in included inside Informal educationaccording to Law No 20 of 2003 About National Education System Article 13 chapter 1above, so that the parent need to have an understanding and abilities to educate theirchildren in a good children character building. DISCUSSIONParents role in early chilhood character building have a responsibility to creatingchildren personality which is teach or creating children to having a good attitudearound the society even in the front of The One Almighty God. Creating the childrenpersonality is to creating a children with good character. 1. Teach About HonestyHonesty isn’t a character that comes by itself and isn’t an attitude that comes by itself.Parents is expected to giving an example about honest attitude in everythings in thefront of their child. We need to tell to the childrens that honesty will always win andevery lies will loose, and we need to say that theres no space for lies. 2. Teaches CourageTeaches courage to children is mean to give them the understandings, and mentalattitude about courage. Brave enough to do something which is consist with religiousguidance accompanied by responsibility courage. Don’t let the children turn into a timidand cowardly person. Some kind of this attitude will causing the children can not doinganything in the front of other people. We need to grow the assertive attitude andcourage to facing any obstacles. Heres some ways to teach about courage:a) Show the examples about the struggle that need courage.b) Take childrens to see an even or a occasion that can upgrade the children couragec) Teach the childrens about courage attitude, teach is mean to give childrens achances to having “courage” when asking the courage to appear. 3. Patient lessonThe first step in order for children to be patient is not to spoil the children. The nextstep is giving the understanding and the example of a patient goodness to examparystory. Patient can upgraded friend and it will comes the reward. The patient attitudewill give benefits to the childrens itself, which is:a. Not easily discouraged Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 324 b. Not envyc. Receive (not complaining or not grumbled)d. Mature child 4. Simplicity LessonTeaching the simplicity lesson is a part of giving a character according to ProphetMuhammad SAW. Parents is responsible to equip their children with simplicity attitude,so one day the children wont ask too much. How to teach the simplicity is to give theexample of parents simplicity attitude. Less talk but giving many examples is aneffective ways to teach the simplicity. Parents are not allowed to give a luxury way ofliving lesson, simplicity is the best way. 5. Straight Thought LessonA practical way of teaching the children to straight thinks is to make the children usetheir logical way to think. The law of cause and effect is important to deliver to thechildren as a straight thinks understatement support. To make children think straightand wide is to invite them to discuss, so that the communication between parent andthe children is expected not got to disconnected by working activities. Children isformatted to be wide open in the front of their families. 6. Responsibility LessonResponsibility is to do every tasks with well. To create responsibility we need to give avariety task or works to children. The thing that to be rembered by parents is the taskthat children do is not to see the result this just only to give them a responsibility, that’sthe important thing. If we seen children do some mistakes while they do their task, don’tget angry directly. Scold them with a familiar, tender, and cool hearted words whileteach them how to do their task. Teach responsibility to children is strived with aneffective ways and fun. 7. Discipline LessonFrom the original language (discipline : English) mean orderlines. Orderlines is tiedbetween someone attitude with rules/law/custom of the society where the someonebehavior is taking place. The purpose of the children discipline is to makes children canbehave like it been expected by the society environment. Starting with routine task andeasy to monitorised. On giving the discipline attitude parent need to consistent to be agood examples. 8. Teach the Values of Fighting SpiritIts very important to give children the values of a fighting spirit. Do not the reverse act,children will growth the despair attitude, complaints, and not get excited to everything.People with desperation is a people with weak will, and this kind of attitude will end up Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 325 to careless attitude. Everytime childrens will do their task make sure to give them spiritwith telling the benefits of the learning and the loss of not learning. Beside the things above, the most important thing on building early children characteris :1. Religious LessonReligious education should be done by the parent as early as its can so that they cantaking chances to get used the attitude where it should be taught by the p[arents. Thepurpose is to lead human to maturity so that the student will having a balance betweenmind and attitude and can create the balance of the concrete deeds. So on with thereligious education, can lead children to faith maturity. 2. God LessonKnowledge about god from parents next will enriched by children with their experienceand they believe. Generally, the point of God to children is more fixed to father issues(Alex Sabrur, 1986). Putting the understatement to children that God is “the Khalik”which mean nature creator. The children don’t need to give the understanding aboutform and the subtance of Allah SWT, but the the habitude of its power that need to besaid to the children. The Wise, The greatest, The Strongest, The One and etc, its need tobe said to children. Give them the understatement and the understanding that evernature phenomenon is happen by God’s will Te Most Powerfull. God’s role is very greatand real. 3. Faith LessonTeach something to children don’t need to be too serious, constricted but its expectedwith a relax and fun atmosphere. Included to faith lessorn. While singing, working,exercise, recreation, and other activities that can be inserted with faith lesson so thechildren wont feel bored and under pressure. Little by little faith will attached and tiedby children heart which is the parent already formatted. 4. Norm Values LessonOn the first year of the elementary school children is starting to act based on parentsmorarily, teacher, and certain adult on the of the society authorities and they with allthe rules that need to be obey. The growth and the development of children moralityalong with the intelligence development. Way to teach the children about morality.Giving experience – experiencing and giving example – a good morality example, needto be given since early chilhood. Social interaction between the children and theirfriends that has a big role on their morality development. Morality understatementabout which one was right or wrong, which one good or not good will owned by thechildren after having values from every experience and examples that they have beenexperiences. As the key of success teaching the morality values to the children is tocreate the children environment that safe and orderly. Jurnal Empowerment Volume 7 Nomor 2, September 2018 e-ISSN : 2580-7692 p-ISSN : 2252-4738 326 5. Worship LessonParents main responsibility is giving a good examples of the worship behavior in thefront of their children. Boys and girls are having a diversity and take lesson of theworship. Boys, the experience will much more meaningfull than a thousand words ofwisdom. Different with the girls, sometimes words of wisdom is needed more dominantthan do the direct activities. CONCLUSIONParents are having an important role on children character building. 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