Migraciones internacionales 24.indd [267] NOTA CRÍTICA/ESSAY Migrants Support their Older Parents from a Distance Migrantes que a distancia apoyan a sus padres mayores Ana Cecilia REYES URIBE Universidad de Guadalajara According to the International Organization for Migration (iom, 2012), there are now 214 million people living outside their coun- tries. One out of every 33 persons in the world is a migrant. The current annual growth rate is approximately 3.1 percent (iom, 2012). The migration movement is affecting large numbers of people all over the world, and is expected to increase in the com- ing years. Migration patterns have sparked increased interest in family studies in recent years because it is important to under- stand how family relationships are maintained over distance. At what level is the family affected? How do families maintain their links and overcome the geographical distance in their relations? What are the challenges? As life expectancy increases, migrants face the fact of their own parents getting older and therefore need to support them from a distance. How much help and support is really exchanged between adult offspring and their older parents from a distance? How strong are the bonds and expectations be- tween them? Th e Reasons for Migration The reasons for migration vary. They include political reasons (King, and Vullnetari, 2006), sociocultural reasons (Clark, Glick, and Bures, 2009), personal freedom and self-realization (King, and Vullnetari, 2006), insecurity and violence (King, and Vullnetari, 2006), and economic aspects (Baldassar, 2007b; Clark, Glick, and MIGRACIONES INTERNACIONALES, VOL. 7, NÚM. 1, ENERO-JUNIO DE 2013268 Bures, 2009). However, the economic factor is the predominant ex- planation. Remittances often provide the incentive for migration (Mckenzie, and Menjívar, 2011; Van der Geest, Mul, and Vermeu- len, 2004). Remittances improve migrants’ families’ economic sit- uation, which is the primary motivator for children’s migration (Mckenzie, and Menjívar, 2011). The family economy is therefore directly related to children’s propensity to migrate (Clark, Glick, and Bures, 2009). Furthermore, remittances not only improve the economic well-being of family members at the origin, they also serve to reinforce and maintain transnational bonds (Clark, Glick, and Bures, 2009). For instance, mothers do not see chil- dren’s migration exclusively in terms of financial support, but as an expression of love, commitment, and sacrifice (Mckenzie, and Menjívar, 2011). However, reasons for migration are not always related to children’s family economic constraints in the country of origin. Migration is sometimes motivated by career or lifestyle choices (Baldassar, 2007b; Baldock, 2000). Provision of Support When adult children migrate, they need to know who provides support for whom, how much, when, and why (Baldassar, 2007b; Stuif bergen, Van Delden, and Dykstra, 2008; Sun, 2002). The first providers of support for older adults are their partners; when partners cannot provide support because they are absent or un- able to provide help, children are next in line (Stuif bergen, Van Delden, and Dykstra, 2008). The provision of support for older parents is closely related to parents’ age, marital status, and physi- cal condition (Stuifbergen, Van Delden, and Dykstra, 2008; Sun, 2002). For instance, single parents, widowers or divorcees, are more likely to receive support than those that have re-married or re-partnered (Stuif bergen, Van Delden, and Dykstra, 2008). Moreover, migrants’ age, marital status, and socio-demographic conditions determine the type of support provided for their older parents (King, and Vullnetari, 2006). For instance, single adult children tend to send more money than those who are married. NOTA CRÍTICA/ESSAY 269 When adult children marry and have their own children, remit- tances to older parents decrease sharply (King, and Vullnetari, 2006). Furthermore, remittances are also highly gendered be- cause in some cultural or ethnical groups, women become part of their husbands’ parental family; as a result of which they send their remittances to their husbands’ parents (King, and Vullne- tari, 2006). Furthermore, the diversity of life course trajectories of older par- ents shapes the types of support provided by adult children for their parents. For instance, affluent parents are most likely to pro- vide opportunities to their children (such as a good education), and therefore, these parents receive more material and financial support from their adult children than those who did not pro- vide opportunities for their children (Kreager, 2006). In addition, the type of support given is related to the parent-child relationship (Kreager, 2006; Stuif bergen, Van Delden, and Dykstra, 2008). Some adult children have negative childhood memories. They ex- press hate or anger towards their parents, which may affect the support provided for their older parents (Leinonen, 2011). Yet de- spite adult children’s emotional and personal circumstances, the general attitude towards their older parents is to offer help because they believe this is a moral responsibility (Lai, 2010; Leinonen, 2011; Sun, 2002). This moral responsibility, known as filial piety and refers to: “an attitude, values, and behavioral prescriptions for how children interact with their parents” (Lai, 2010:205). Over- all, adult children believe in filial piety and continue with the so- cial practice of assuming roles and responsibilities in caregiving (Lai, 2010; Leinonen, 2011; Sun, 2002). Support Providers: Family and Social Networks Migration movements of adult children have changed family structure, the roles of interaction within the family, and the social support networks available (Miltiades, 2002). After adult chil- dren migrate, family members need to know who is now help- ing with the daily living needs of older adults, which used to be MIGRACIONES INTERNACIONALES, VOL. 7, NÚM. 1, ENERO-JUNIO DE 2013270 responsibility of adult children. It seems that migrants rely first on their siblings’ support (Baldassar, 2007a; Baldock, 2000; Lei- nonen, 2011). Migrants recognize the important role played by their siblings who live near or in the same city where their parents live (Baldassar, 2007a; Baldock, 2000). They interpret the role of their siblings as informants and providers. Siblings report on well- being, financial matters, and other issues regarding their older parents. This information helps migrants to become involved in the caregiving process. Migrants with no siblings make arrangements with their neigh- bors or close relatives in order to be informed of any emergency issue related to their older parents. Baldock (2000) uses the term Play Detective to explain how adult children investigate to find out more about their parents by using secondary sources. Thus, the broader family and social networks (Kreager, 2006; Sun, 2002) play a crucial role in migrants’ support for their parents from a distance. A sub-set of family members have to assume more re- sponsibility when adult children migrate. This sub-set of family members is likely to change over time, depending on the avail- ability of supporters, and what these supporters are prepared to do (Kreager, 2006). However, older adults should not be described exclusively as the receivers of support. They do have various re- sources, which they share with others (Sun, 2002). Financial sup- port, practical support, and emotional support flow from adult children to parents and vice versa (Kreager, 2006; Sun, 2002). Support is therefore not unidirectional but bidirectional. Governmental Support The absence of adult children is more problematic and acute in so- cieties where governments fail to provide support for older adults and their adult children, and care of the eldery is almost entirely family-based (Van der Geest, Mul, and Vermeulen, 2004). De- veloped countries offer several options for the care of dependent older parents in comparison with developing countries (Sun, 2002; Van der Geest, Mul, and Vermeulen, 2004). However, it NOTA CRÍTICA/ESSAY 271 seems that the tendency of governments in developed countries is to promote family support for older adults, as well as the reduc- tion of public welfare services and benefits for this population group (Leinonen, 2011). This tendency is known as reverse sub- stitution and refers to the fact that: “the process whereby families have been forced to take over social-care tasks that were financ- ed and organized by the state during the era of the expanding welfare” (Leinonen, 2011:310). Changes in public social-care ser- vices and the availability of formal help have clearly influenced adult children’s capabilities, willingness and ability to provide intensive care for their parents. On the other hand, the tendency of governments in certain developing countries, such as China, is to increase the role of the government in providing support for older adults by establishing a comprehensive social security sys- tem for senior citizens, particularly those living in rural areas due to the depopulation phenomenon caused by children’s migration (Sun, 2002). Th e Mechanisms Used for Providing Support and Care Due to geographical distance between migrants and older par- ents, they rely on communication technologies to stay in touch, such as phone calls and e-mails, as well as travel opportunities to visit each other (Baldassar, 2007b; Mckenzie, and Menjívar, 2011; Stuif bergen, Van Delden, and Dykstra, 2008). This is im- portant because, “As long as family members work hard at stay- ing in touch by making use of all technologies available to them, they can maintain mutually supportive relationships across time and space” (Baldassar, 2007b:406), and alleviate “the stress and anxiety revolving around the possibility of abandonment or fam- ily dissolution” (Mckenzie, and Menjívar, 2011:73). The exchange of telephone calls, including the use of mobile phones, between migrants and older parents is the most impor- tant channel of communication that maintains close emotional bonds between family members (Baldassar, 2007a, 2007b; King, and Vullnetari, 2006). Phone calls are planned or scheduled, such MIGRACIONES INTERNACIONALES, VOL. 7, NÚM. 1, ENERO-JUNIO DE 2013272 as a monthly call, or a call every Sunday morning. The fre quency of calls increases when one or both parents are no longer in good physical or mental health, or one parent has been widowed (Bal- dassar, 2007b). Thus, patterns of communication among migrants and their parents may show some changes over time, but regu- larity and frequency of contact remain almost unchanged (Bal- dock, 2000). Additionally, migrants’ visits to their parents’ homes show that children care for their parents (Baldock, 2000; King, and Vull- netari, 2006), and face-to-face contact is always appreciated dur- ing times of crisis (Baldassar, 2007b). For instance, grandmothers and mothers visit their adult children to offer support for new- born babies, or provide care for a sick adult child (Baldassar, 2007b). Patterns of visits tend to be planned and are reciprocal. Moreover, the frequency of visits varies, depending on migrants’ working conditions. Migrants’ visits to their parents are blocked or limited by migrants’ illegal status in the host country (King, and Vullnetari, 2006). Another mechanism used for providing support is based on formal and paid helpers. Paid helpers are essential when older par- ents are frail and have functional limitations on performing cer- tain housework activities, such as cleaning, washing dishes and clothes and going shopping (Miltiades, 2002; Stuif bergen, Van Del den, and Dykstra, 2008). In developing countries such as In- dia or Ghana, in-home help is inexpensive, and migrants with low or moderate incomes can afford to pay help for their older parents (Miltiades, 2002; Van der Geest, Mul, and Vermeulen, 2004). This help is essential because, for example, in India few houses have washing machines, meaning that clothes are washed by hand and hung out to dry. When parents have physical limitations, paid help is therefore essential for daily living activities, which enables older parents to live independently (Miltiades, 2002). Fur- thermore, full-time paid helpers provide more than physical assis- tance. Their presence create a sense of security for adult children because they know that their parents are not alone and could have instant help if needed. This also means that migrants and older NOTA CRÍTICA/ESSAY 273 parents can rely on family mostly for emergency situations rather than for everyday living activities (Miltiades, 2002). Emotional Consequences The relationship between adult children and their older relatives at a distance has several emotional outcomes. Migrants express considerable guilt and regret because they are unable to do more for their parents. They all describe feelings of guilt about the per- ceived inability to meet their family obligations, often described as the result of physical absence, and not being there for their par- ents, which is the most frequently expressed cause of anxiety for adult children (Baldassar, 2007a; Baldock, 2000; Mc kenzie, and Menjívar, 2011). However, anxiety is also found in the narrative of migrants’ mothers. Responsibilities previously handled by their sons, such as agricultural work in rural areas, are assumed by mothers and wives. This causes anxiety and stress and, in some cases, physical illness (Mckenzie, and Menjívar, 2011). Another emotional consequence is the creation of myths. Whereas some old- er parents have more or less resigned themselves to the fact that their children will not return, others have a more ambivalent view, which creates a myth of their adult children’s return (King, and Vullnetari, 2006). Some older adults never accept the fact that their adult children will never return to live permanently in their country of origin. Elderly parents are frightened about what might happen to them if they become ill or die without seeing their children again. This particular issue, as expected, is found in research studies in which migrants do not have legal residence status in the destination country (King, and Vullneta ri, 2006). The concept of imagined and ideal families is also mentioned as an important emotional outcome in the parent-child relationship from a distance (Baldassar, 2007a, 2007b). This concept is used for exploring how adult children and their older parents construct their ideal of family in a transnational context. Both children and older parents conceal or change the information they share with each other. They scrutinize what they want to share with MIGRACIONES INTERNACIONALES, VOL. 7, NÚM. 1, ENERO-JUNIO DE 2013274 each other, because they do not want to worry them unnecessarily (Baldassar, 2007b). For example, older parents may hide the fact that they are physically ill or depressed while adult children may conceal information about, marital or work problems, for exam- ple (Baldassar, 2007b). Hiding or altering information is a recur- rent activity between migrants and older parents. By projecting an ideal personal or family story; they give others what they want to listen to. However, one important challenge faced by children and parents is that when information is manipulated, this may result in a lack of support and solidarity between parents and chil- dren (Baldassar, 2007a). Closing Remarks Despite large-scale migration movements separating families across national borders, relatively little is known about migrants’ avail- ability for providing support for their older parents from a dis- tance. Migration may help families to alleviate their poverty, yet at the same time it generates cultural changes, and negative emo- tional consequences in the relationship between migrants and their older parents. In the future, family researchers and schol- ars in related fields should advance and extend research on child- parent relationships across national borders in several directions. There is likely to be more discussion about migration patterns in rural areas. Labor migration seems to intensify the age-pop- ulation imbalance in rural areas, particularly in the developing world. The older population is increasing in rural areas, while the younger population is decreasing. As a result, the oldest group in the population seems to be particularly vulnerable because sup- port networks living close by and available to provide support to older people are likely to belong to the same cohort group (i.e. old- er people providing support for older people). It is important to know more about the challenges when support networks for older people belong to the same or a similar birth cohort. More discussion is also to be expected, with a critical perspec- tive, about governments increasingly encouraging self-help and NOTA CRÍTICA/ESSAY 275 family responsibility in the care of older adults. 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